挽回后的婚姻,最常见的后遗症

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当然,在背叛婚姻之后,有可能恢复;然而,复苏后的婚姻可能仍然不愉快,因为背叛给婚姻留下了很多后遗症。

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当婚姻被背叛时,被出卖的一方通常会选择恢复。这既有理性思考的要素,但实际上有本能的原因。也就是说,有很多人会攒钱。这只是一种无意识的行为。就像属于你的东西突然从你的手上滑落一样,你会下意识地抓住它。

正是基于这种心理学,很多人在这个阶段把注意力集中在恢复上,而忽略了其他感受,比如背叛自己的内部伤害,以及接受背叛等等,他们通常认为只要你可以恢复对方,这是解决问题,一切都会消失,生活将重回正轨,你会很开心。

但事实并非如此。太多人已经恢复了感情,并认为一切都会好起来的。只有到那时他们才发现他们仍然不快乐,无法真正摆脱背叛的漩涡。这就是为什么,因为背叛给婚姻留下了太多后遗症,当你恢复对方时,这些症状一个接一个地表现出来,你真的会面对它。

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背叛的最大伤害是信任,重建中最难的部分就是信任。

很多人会告诉你,如果你想结婚,你必须努力相互信任。没问题,但你能做到吗?

太难了一个曾经欺骗过自己而不是你信任的人会立即信任,信任是一种真实的感觉,当你不信任一个人时,就不可能信任。

The trust between the husband and wife is originally a long-term accumulation, but now the trust has been destroyed. If you want to rebuild, you need not only more time, but also the efforts of both sides, especially the betrayal.

Many couples are unable to complete this homework, so even if the marriage is retained, the other party does not have any betrayal, but there is always a gap between the two people, and they can no longer truly communicate with each other.

The relationship between husband and wife determines that a marriage that wants happiness must be concentric, cannot be concentric, and naturally cannot be happy. This is why it is not happy after recovery, or is it painful or an important reason.

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Betrayal must be a kind of injury, and it is the deepest hurt in the relationship between husband and wife. Not everyone can cure such damage. Not everyone can digest such a knot.

When I first recovered the other party, I usually don't care about this part of the feeling, because all your attention and feelings are being saved. Once recovered, that part of the homework is completed and new homework is coming. Just like an athlete playing on the court, he was seriously injured, but because ta was too focused on the game, he was completely unconscious and didn't feel it at the time. Once the game was over, he found that the injured place was painful.

In your mind, you will remember the betrayal of the other party from time to time and feel your inner pain. The more you want to restrain yourself from thinking, the more you find yourself sinking deeper. In the long run, your spirit and even your life will be seriously affected. At this time, many people discovered that this trauma is too deep, and this heart is too difficult to eliminate. This is another important reason why even if you recover the other party, you are still unhappy.

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There are two suggestions for these sequelae:

xx首先,在背叛后的第一次,我仍然问自己,这场婚姻是否值得保留。这个人值得康复吗?

如果它不值得,就没有必要折磨自己来拯救对方。最可怕的情况是,在经历了痛苦,怨气,折磨和痛苦之后,我终于把对方拉回来了,但发现生活并没有像你想象的那样快乐更痛苦。

其次,如果你保存未来的婚姻,或者你不开心,你仍然可以决定用什么态度来对付这段婚姻。

简单来说,你仍然可以选择离婚。你不能保证通过另一方。 “如果你回头看,我们将度过一段美好时光。”然后,即使它一生都很痛苦,也必须得到支持。或者,如果你不想离婚,你可以接受它。毕竟,如果婚姻中有背叛,就会有后遗症。这是因果关系。

最后,关系中的所有痛苦可能都是由于自己的担忧。太在乎关系,太在乎对方,如果你能基本放下或淡化这种感觉,这个人,你可以完全摆脱痛苦的婚姻。

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